2) Never insult her, even if you’re joking. She’ll start to get annoyed with you, and when a girl has made up her mind, she isn’t coming back.

3) Don’t be overly protective. Girls like it when their guys are protective, but not to the point where you are the only guy in their lives.

4) Call her just to talk and hear her voice. Even if you call her at three in th morning, she may seem annoyed, but she really loves to know you care enough. Tell her something sweet, she’ll love you for it.

5) Listen to her. In contrast to what you may think, most girls prefer nice guys over bad boys. If she feels like she’s just a decoration, it’s over.

6) Chances are some of her past relationships weren’t that great. Don’t add on to the list. If you are attracted to a girl as just a rebound or arm candy, spare her the heart break.

7) Don’t flirt with other girls to make her jealous. Chances are she’ll think you’re not interested and move on to new territory.

Get her presents on special occasions. It doesn’t have to be jewlery or chocolate. It’s not the fact you got her a nice present. All she cares about is that you cared enough to remember.

9) Do little things whenever you have the chance. Girls love it when you do little things to make her happy. It will make her day, and it won’t cost you but a second. Do things like leaning over her shoulder to take a sip out of her drink or hug her for no reason.

10) If you love her, TELL HER! If you’ve been in a long relationship and she doesn’t hear those three words, she will think something is wrong. Don’t be afraid of rejection. If you’re already in a relationship with a girl, chances are you’re her entire world. She deserves to hear it from you.

11) Don’t pretend to be something. You’ll only succeed in breaking her heart when she finds out you’ve been lying to her the entire time. If she’s the one, she will like you for you.

12) Be tasteful. Don’t make comments that will make her feel uncomfortable. She’ll think you’re only in it for one thing, and it’s not what she wants.

That’s all i have for you…but here’s something that will help you further:

31 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

1. Tell her she’s BEAUTIFUL. Not hot or ***y.

2. Hold her hand, just because you love her.

3. Leave her voice messages to wake up to.

4. Wrestle with her, and let her win.

5. Hug her from behind.

6. Don’t hang out with your ex when she’s not around. It kills her inside.

7. If you talk to another girl, walk over to her after you’re done and kiss her.

8. Write her notes or call her just to say I love you.

9. Introduce her to your friends, as your girlfriend.

10. Play with her hair.

11. Pick her up, even when she says no.

12. Get upset if she gets unwanted contact from someone else.

13. Make her laugh, just because you love to see her smile.

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.

15. If she’s mad at you, kiss her, don’t fight back.

16. If you care about her, tell her, or else she won’t come back.

17. Every girl should receive three presents from her guy: a teddy bear (she’ll hug it when she goes to sleep), jewlery (she’ll treasure it forever), and one of your shirts (she’ll wear it to bed).

18. Treat her the same with your friends as when you are alone.

19. Look her in the eyes and give her your best smile.

20. Hang out with her on the weekends, because she’s important to you.

21. Kiss her in the rain, without an umbrella.

22. Kiss her just to let her know you care.

23. If you’re listening to music, give her the other headphone.

24. Remember her birthday and get her something. Even if it is simple and inexpensive, it came from you. It will mean the world to her.

25. If she gets you a present on whatever occasion, tell her you love it, even if you don’t, just to make her happy.

26. Always call her when you say you will. Failing to do so will break her heart. We love hearing your voice, even if only for a minute.

27. Give her what she wants, but don’t smother her.

28. Recognize the small things. They mean the most.

29. Don’t hug other girls before her.

30. Spend your free time with her. She will love you for it.

31. If you care her, don’t just talk about it, show her.

Turnoff #1: Flakiness

Guys report that one of the biggest turnoffs when dating a woman is when she either can’t commit to plans or constantly flakes on plans.  If you regularly pencil in your plans with a “maybe” and/or cancel plans at the last minute, you’re giving your guy the impression that he’s tentative in your life, aka “good enough for now.”  Who wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary?  Chances are you don’t, and you shouldn’t be the girl who makes her date feel that way either.

Turnoff #2: Poor communication skills
Raise your hand if you’ve been this girl in your relationship past: your date/boyfriend said or did something you didn’t like, but instead of saying anything, you went along with it.  You may have even said it was “fine.”  But then at some point down the road, you got upset.  Maybe you even blew up at an inappropriate time, causing an argument that completely took your significant other off guard.  Most of us have been guilty of passive aggressive behavior at least once in our dating past.  It happens.  But when you repeat that kind of behavior over and over in any dating/relationship scenario, the only thing you’ll succeed at is sabotaging your efforts.  Just as you deserve to be with someone who’s comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires, you, too, should be a healthy communicator.  Don’t say one thing if you really mean another.  Instead, get in the habit of saying what you mean.  Guys appreciate that!

Turnoff #3: Not playing fair
From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you’re playing fair.  If, for example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you’re not dating fairly.  More important, if there’s a disagreement and you don’t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you’re going to be a very lonely single girl because you’re not being fair.  In the new millennium, chivalry goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take.  If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will dig you so much more!

Turnoff #4: Trying to change him
It’s almost cliché how often in the media we see, hear, or read about a woman who tries to change her man.  Whether it’s changing how he dresses, what he watches on TV, his manners, or his friends, the woman at the helm of all this change always comes off as a control freak.  Don’t be that girl.  Just as the guy in your life should accept you warts and all, you, too, should accept him for who he is.  And if you can’t?  Don’t date him.  It’s as simple as that.  The whole point of being single and dating is to meet a variety of different people, find out who you are as well as who your perfect partner might be, and eventually settle down with someone who’s right for you.  Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr. Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that special someone who’s far from perfect but whose imperfections you have no desire to change?  (He’s out there — keep looking!)

Turnoff #5: Ultimatums
Nothing turns a man off more than a woman who gives him an ultimatum.  Not only are they not sexy, they’re ineffective.  Healthy and happy relationships don’t need ultimatums.  When you’re regularly communicating your needs to the person you’re in a relationship with, ultimatums are unnecessary.  It’s when communication breaks down, when one person feels his or her needs aren’t being met, or when the relationship isn’t going in the direction one had hoped or at the speed one had anticipated, that ultimatums are usually issued.  A huge turn-off, ultimatums are a tricky relationship tactic and should be avoided at all costs.

So there you have it — the top five male turnoffs.  By understanding the dating and mating behaviors that shut men down, you ultimately master the art of how to turn the right guy on.  Good luck and happy dating!

“Then I guess we shouldn’t be dating!”

You wouldn’t tell your boss you’re quitting your job unless you meant it, would you? But sometimes, in a relationship, people are tempted to pull out the nuclear option just to get the other person off their backs: “If you don’t like the way I season veal, then you’ll never understand me! We should just break up!”

Save breakup talk for when you truly want to end a relationship, not as a rhetorical weapon. Otherwise, you risk your match taking you up on the offer and leaving you crying over steak for one.

“Why can’t you be more/less like my ex?”

We all have exes that have taught us what we do and don’t like in relationships. But the person you’re with now wants to feel special, not like the sequel to a bad romantic comedy. Don’t make it sound as though you’re still hung up on the past. Tell your current love specifically how you feel and what you want, but in the context of the present.

“I’m just too tired from working all day to help you with that.”

Of course, you’re not lying – you probably did get exhausted from rushing around and dealing with your boss all day. But in the modern era, when most men and women have taxing jobs outside the home, this is the lamest excuse in the book. Remember, the man or woman you love is probably as exhausted as you, and even if they’re not, they shouldn’t have to pick up your dirty socks, move a couch by themselves, or take the kids to lacrosse practice just because you did a little work. If you’re really tired, ask to trade or defer chores. Or better yet, just do whatever it is eagerly and quickly, so you can have time to relax and enjoy each other’s company.

“Let’s go grave digging!”

Have you ever complained to your loved one that they forgot to do something, and instead of apologizing they brought up something slightly similar that you once did? Everyone makes mistakes, but small infractions done long ago are not hooks to hang your hat on when you want to avoid blame for something you’re doing in the present. “You forgot to feed the dog five years ago!” is no excuse for forgetting to feed the cat today, and bringing up past transgressions simply leads to an escalation of blame and hurt.

“Do as I say, not as I do!”

It’s hard to come home and find that the kitchen is a mess, but… when was the last time you took out the garbage? If you’re going to criticize your spouse or your girlfriend or boyfriend for something they’re neglecting to do, it had better be something you do fairly consistently. Otherwise you’ll come off as a nag who wants the rest of the world to get busy while you put your feet up.

“You’re a lousy lover!”

You were hoping for fireworks – but your sweetie is a sparkler at best. Though you may be frustrated, the worst thing you can do in the moment is to ridicule or insult the person you love for their romantic performance. In intimate situations, when a person is sharing a very private and special part of themselves with you, they are at their most vulnerable, so angry words take on an especially hurtful tone.

If you want to heat things up, positive reinforcement yields better results than angry criticism. “I’d love it if we could stay in this position” works a lot better than “You never stop squirming!” Being a bully in bed might make your beau yearn for someone a little less romantically selfish.

“You knew I was this way when you met me!”

On the one hand, it’s not a good idea to get into a relationship with the intention of changing who someone is. But on the other hand, people naturally change as they grow older, often getting better at time management, financial planning, and social interactions. If one of you is growing and changing and the other is staying stagnant, that’s a big problem. Claiming that you’re allowed to go drinking every night or leave the toilet seat up because that’s what you did when the two of you started dating is effectively saying “I will never grow or change, so don’t invest any hopes in me.”

Rather than freezing your personality in time, address the issue at hand. Come to the table with some things you feel you can change. Then give logical, personal reasons why you prefer to stay the same about other things.

“No comment.”

With all the relationship-killing things you can say, it may be tempting to say nothing at all. But talking and interacting with the other person is your principal job in a relationship!

If you’re not truly listening to your partner, and not expressing yourself – if you’re always saying “fine” or “no problem” – then your issues will never work their way toward resolution, and your partner won’t be able to feel close to you. If you stifle conversation, you’ll suffocate intimacy as well, and soon find your relationship breathing its last gasps.

These are all good things to avoid saying when speaking to a spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, or even someone you’re just beginning to date. Are there some stock phrases you’ve said, or been told, that eventually led to a breakup? Let us know if there’s a phrase that rubs you the wrong way. And let us know if you’ve found some good alternatives to these phrases, to enhance the conversation and lead to greater closeness

But you got through it! The first date was a smashing success and now you can get on with the dating process. Or can you…

It’s still a tricky time in a growing relationship. The first date certainly isn’t enough to tell if you’re good together. You’ll need more. So, how does one proceed after that first date and make arrangements for future dates?

We’ll look at a couple of ways that might help you secure a second date.

The Three-Day Rule:
I’m sure you’ve heard about this on the TV and in books, etc, but don’t buy it. The three-day rule says you should always wait three days before calling someone when you get their number or even contacting them after a date. Well, you know who uses this rule? The dateless!

You want to contact your date the day after, especially if you’re a guy. Now, you don’t want to be too forward. Don’t ask for a second date. Instead, tell her what a great time you had. Text messaging works fantastically well for this! Just say how great you thought it was and leave a little smile.

The Stinky Cologne:
Do not, under any circumstances, come across as desperate. Just stop it. There’s no sense in it. You don’t need to contact this person and tell them how much you need them, or especially something cheesy like the “you complete me” thing.

Also, don’t seem desperate for a second date. The next time you talk, you can broach the topic of seeing each other again, but don’t grovel on it. There’s a big difference in wanting to see someone again and needing it. You need to come across like the former.

The Changeling:
It’s perfectly okay to let that successful first date change your outlook of the potential relationship, but it’s not such a good idea to let it change you as a person. You don’t want to come across as too familiar, and you certainly don’t want to start acting a fool in front of this person like it’s all sewn up.

The date happened and now it’s over. The idea is to let this act like a building block of the relationship, not a stepping stone for your ego. Be the same person.

The Socialist:
Remember this: The first date does not entitle you to a second date in any way. Far too often people begin to act as if a successful first date means that the other person has no choice in accepting a second.

This can be a disastrous move for you. Don’t be a dirty commie. You can only speak for yourself and have no real say over whether or not the other person will be seeing you again. If you take this for granted and expect a second date to be a given, you’ll find yourself back to square one.

SinglesNet.com

  As a first impression, SinglesNet.com looks very inviting. There’s a quick rundown of what to expect, and what you’ll be receiving right off the bat. The home page is quite attractive, with a nice blend of color choices. It’s not too cluttered, and it’s easy to find just what you’re looking for. Before you can really get started, you have to go through the sign up process.

  You’re offered a free membership, which is a rather quick process. You fill out a short survey about who you are, and what kind of people you’re interested in. This will help you on your way to finding your perfect match.

  After you sign up, SinglesNet is easy to browse and use. Of course, you have to be 18 years or older to legally participate in the site and its services. Speaking of services, the different membership options available offer different kinds of tools to use. The free profile lets you upload photos, browse through other members, and send them messages. It’s not very much to operate with, but you will get a 7 days free trial with full features if you follow our links here. You can upgrade for 1 month, for $24.95; and for 3 months it’s $19.95/month; and for a year, it’s $7.49/month. As you can see, there’s a better deal if you sign up for a longer period of time. With this new membership you will be able to match yourself with other singles, send emails to anyone, get more support, and just have more all around features (which are not stated) that will help you find your exact match.

  SinglesNet accepts Paypal, online check, credit card, and mail-in. This assures anyone should be able to join, as long as they have the money.  It’s worth it, for all the extra features you will be receiving.  SinglesNet.com is for anyone,  no matter what gender or what kind of preference you have.  You can be sure you’ll find just who you’re looking for on this online dating site.

  There are success stories though, to prove the legitimacy of the site. What was impressive though, was the high amount of people online – 4363 singles. Those are pretty big numbers, and you have to figure at least half of them could be the person for you. Besides that, there really isn’t anything else to do on the home page, except sign up for a free profile.

  Well, everything went pretty smoothly, and it didn’t take any longer than a couple minutes. There’s only a short “About You” kinda part you have to go through, so other people can see what kind of person you are. I usually don’t like filling in loads of surveys when I only want to get in and use the site’s services, but it’s a pass on this one. Once you finish everything, you have to confirm your email address (groan). This doesn’t take long, but it’s something I never did like. Finally, once inside, you can start figuring out if this place is worth staying a part of. There’s a couple of options right off the bat: Become a subscriber; Upload photos; or check who’s online. This seems to be the extent of the free membership profile options, but there’s enough there to get you going. Did I mention when a member wants to IM you, it plays an awesome little jingle as a notice? That was within two minutes of logging on, so it’s rather obvious that it’s not hard to come across american singles here – Almost every two minutes you’ll get another notice of an interested single, which is fantastic.

  Now, there’s a two different paid plans a person can invest in. Firstly, the standard plan. The cheapest plan is $7.49/month for 12 months. With the standard information, you can interact with video chat, use the message boards, and send and receive email. It’s a decent boost beyond the free membership, but there is yet one more to look at. For the premium membership, it’s $12.49/month for 12 months. This option seems kind of useless really. It highlights your profile, so it has a yellow shade. You’ll certainly get more attention, which is the objective; but for so much money, it may not be worth it.

  Americansingles.com has plenty to offer as a matchmaking site. There’s a decent layout, that won’t get dull or boring; there are members IM’ing you every couple minutes, which means lots of potential people to meet; and there are even more features available through a paid membership. The only thing I would’ve liked, are a bit larger pages. Some times it feels suffocated, but other times it feels very cozy. It’s up to the user to decide. If this sounds interesting at all, then you should definitely check this site out. I highly recommend it as a matchmaking site.

Pros
-High amount of people online
-Cheap paid options

Cons
-Small Fonts
Overall Rating:  9/10